Dickson: FaceTime sleepovers are a thing
Oct 5, 2023, 2:00 PM | Updated: Oct 24, 2023, 2:10 pm
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I find I am learning a lot from my freshman students at the University of Utah. I teach a class called Media and Society. When we were discussing the subtopic of media and relationships this week, one student told the class, “My girlfriend expects me to sleep with her on FaceTime every night.”
“Yeah,” he said. “We say goodnight and just leave the app running all night long.”
“Why do you do that?” I asked.
“I think she wants to make sure I’m not cheating,” he laughed.
Saving the trust issues for another day, I asked the class of 30 students: “Show of hands — how many of you sleep with a significant other on FaceTime?”
Half of their hands went up. Half!
Just ask Quora about FaceTime sleepovers
If you look at the question-and-answer website Quora, you will see multiple questions asking something like: “Is it okay to sleep with my boyfriend on FaceTime?”
There are hundreds of answers, but most of them are a variation on the theme of “yes.”
One poster pointed out, “Decades before cellphones, couples would fall asleep with each other on telephones.”
Another replied, “Do what makes you happy. There’s nothing wrong with it.”
It is a way of overcoming the longing and loneliness of being separated for work or other reasons.
My call to attention, parents
When I got home from class that night, I brought up my new discovery at the dinner table.
“I learned today that some young people, well — people of all ages — but especially young people, fall asleep on FaceTime,” I said.
“Oh yeah,” my 18-year-old son replied, “I’ve done that.”
“It’s not a big deal, Mom,” said my son — a common reply in my house. “If my girlfriend feels insecure or anxious, I just leave the app on. It helps her fall asleep.”
“Hum. Good to know,” I replied.
That gave me even more to think about.